MY INTRODUCTION TO TRAUMA

I was brought up in Red Hill on a cherry farm...

...before moving to Bayside with an extremely loving and what I now know as privileged family. No violence, No drugs, No drinking, No divorces. So, domestic violence was very foreign to my idea of what a family should feel or look like. 

I met the kids dad when I was 25 years old. 

2 months later I was pregnant.

4 months later I found out he was cheating. I was suicidal.

10 months later was the first time I was choked. 

It was crazy how easily and quickly I was trapped in our relationship and how much I wanted to keep my family together and the deep love I felt for this man.

MY INTRODUCTION TO THE HELP AVAILABLE

After we fled I witnessed the good, bad and ugly...

...when it came to organisations, police, lawyers, legal aid, etc.

 

I’ll never forget going to see this expensive psychologist asking ‘How do I keep my kids safe from their father after our IVO comes off, I’m petrified he’s going to molest them once he has access’ 

Her response was... ‘Put them on the pill’ 

Soul crushing... when your girls are 5 and 6! 

What I started to realise and witnessed over and over again was although people had qualifications, they didn’t understand parts of domestic violence, intersectionality and trauma like I could and they couldn’t support me like I needed. 

After years of studying, I completed Auslan and Counselling qualifications while trying to manage court, breaches and a new way of life. I was accepted into Swinburne to study a Post Grad in Family Violence. I started applying for local DV jobs. I’d get interviews but couldn’t nail the jobs. I felt like this was due to exposing my lived experience and was told on several occasions to conceal it however deep down I knew this was my greatest asset and I didn’t want to hide it.

MY INTRODUCTION TO A NEW DIRECTION

Fast forward...

... I’ve been mentoring Orange door graduates for a few years and have been paid many times by those companies for my lived experience option. 

I started working as a domestic violence counsellor. It felt good to hold space for women however I knew I didn’t want to sit in the crisis stage. 

So, I studied to become a Master Credited Coach with the international coach Federation. Why?

 

Because I thought I had healed layers until I did Coaching then I realised I hardly even touched the surface.

I’ve known ever since we fled that my calling is to help women heal and become whole again.

 

Today, I am lucky enough to say this has grown into my full-time work. Alongside my work with the inspiring Women’s Spirit Project, Orange Door and my own women’s circles on the Mornington Peninsula.

I now work with women who want to heal, take back their power and move forward with confidence.

 

So. . how long are you going to keep waiting to put yourself first??

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